Hey Alex,
We put together a new strategy guide for the 3 Questions, here is part of it:
The 3 questions – A Brief Description.
One critical element of the 3 Questions is what makes Pandora’s Box such an elegantly powerful, dynamic and flexible system for getting any woman you desire.
As you begin to practice Pandora’s Box and become skilled at it’s use; the practical applications and the methods as to exactly how you apply it will evolve. At it’s most simple level there are basic questions you can use to determine a woman’s type and then you can strategize from there.
At it’s most advanced level the 3 Questions become a philosophy on female psychology and being able to adapt to any situation. As Bruce Lee said “be shapeless, formless like water”. At Bruce Lee’s level of martial arts it went to an almost spiritual level. A similar thing will happen with Pandora’s Box – at the start you might memorize some questions, and with time you’ll personalize it yourself and have an extremely level of flexibility.
It is important to outline the distinctions in use between basic level Pandora’s Box use and high-level use. This is an area of much confusion for guys at the beginning; simply understanding how the 3 Questions can develop as you become more experienced.
Think of the 3 questions like this – in martial arts you might learn 3 moves; block, kick and punch. At the start you might learn the most simple and basic forms of each one but after a period of time you learn many variations of each.
After the period of mastery these forms become lethal through their focus, ability to read a situation and purely through the development of intuition. It becomes autopilot to do what is needed to win, while at the start you may need to keep it simple and take it step-by-step.
The 3 Questions could also be called “how to identify where she is on the 3 Axis’s of Pandora’s Box” – if you’ve studied the instructional material on Pandora’s Box you’ll know what to do with that information, and how determining her type helps you figure out your strategy for dating her.
This guide is best read after you read, watch and study the other Pandora’s Box information.
Keep an open mind and an element of flexibility with the 3 Questions. You might determine her type after 1 Question, noticing things about her and things she says – or it might take 5 Questions. The better you get, the less questions you’ll need to ask to determine her type.
I’ve broken down the 3 Questions in relation to their use by (1) a beginner, (2) a mid-range experienced level, and (3) advanced level. It’s important to realize that the “3 Questions” we talk about actually change as you become more experienced.
At the beginning you usually want it to be very clear, structured and simple – however when you become highly experienced and skilled that would actually be limiting and constricting. To simplify; keep it simple and basic at the beginning, and then with time start to be more creative and experimental.
Sometimes you’ll determine her type by asking yourself questions about her, rather than actually asking questions to her.
As you can imagine; the situations you meet women in, the wide variety of women out there, and women’s ability to appear like a different type initially mean that a flexible approach to determining her type works best. You’ll develop that sense of adaptability with time.
3 Questions for Beginners – White Belt Level
The purpose of the 3 Questions is to identify her type. Once you figure out her type use the information in the Pandora’s Box System to figure out your dating strategy. The 3 Questions are the tool to unlocking the secrets to her heart.
This the most basic version of the 3 Questions. This is the easiest to use application of the 3 Questions, also has the most limitations. This is the ideal place to start with your practitioner training.
Choose 1 Question from Each Category:
Tester/Investor
Keep in mind that the Tester/Investor Axis is probably the trickiest to read, especially initially. It is not as important as the Deny/Justify Axis in terms of picking her up, and women that are Testers might make an effort to appear like Investors.
Use the Pop Quiz included in the Pandora’s Box System to look for clues in her lifestyle to see what type she is. Often you’ll figure out if she is a Tester or Investor by noticing things about her than anything in particular that she says.
But here are some questions to help you determine her type:
You seem really social and friendly, out of interest do you tend to have more female or male friends? Personally I have more female friends (or male). Interpretation: more female friends usually means Investor, and a woman that only has male friends is a Tester.
Are you single or do you have a boyfriend? Been dating him long? (Keep in mind that this is a little risky, and you need to use your social intuition to make sure the timing and situation is right for this question, and also how to blend it into your conversation.) Interpretation: Investor usually is signaled by long-term boyfriends, and Tester with a higher volume of shorter relationships.
Many of the question we receive about Pandora’s Box and determining a woman’s type has to do with questions in reading the Tester/Investor Line. For practical purposes this is not something you need to urgently read, you can be patient with this Axis.
I’ll let you in on a little secret; it isn’t always necessary to get her exact match as to which of the 8 types she is right at the beginning. If you can determine just one of the Axis this is enough to help you form a game-plan and to be superstar with conversation.
A challenge some guys have with Pandora’s Box has to do with being a little too “keen” to determine all 3 Axis and her exact type as one of the 8 types.
Like it’s a race to figure it out.
I recommend to be patient with this process, allow time for you to get crystal clear on her type, and use the information you currently have to help you.
Even with identifying 1 of the Axis you can know enough to relate to her, appeal to her senses and connect. Then as you get to know her more you learn the other Axises and you can get clear on her match as one of the 8 types, and then take it up to another level.
I’ve noticed that some guys can become so determined to figure out her type out of the 8 they stop enjoying the conversation, and stop being completely human during the interaction. They get just a bit too scientific with the process. It is true that you can become too technical.
Never allow determining her type or applying the Pandora’s Box model to get in the road of you being a normal cool guy, that is enjoying himself and having fun with women. Think about putting sauce on the steak. Pandora’s Box is the sauce in an interaction with a woman. If your dinner was all sauce, and very little steak, it wouldn’t be so enjoyable.
Deny/Justify
This is the most critical Axis, especially in terms of sex.
Choose 1 of the following:
(You see a girl – not the one you are talking to – that is dressing in an extreme way – either very sexual and provocative or extremely conservative) – Hey, out of interest what do you think about her styling? Would you dress like that? – you’ll find that Deniers will be anti-”slutty” dressing, and Justifiers won’t really like conservative style.
Hey female opinion, is it better for a guy to be more direct with showing interest and sexual intent with a woman – be more upfront – or be more discrete? Generally Deniers will prefer a more subtle approach whereas Justifiers will like a guy that goes for it.
(Keep in mind at all times your ability to read her and the situation. Sometimes what she says in words and whats she actually means are two different things. Be aware of all the sub-communication, body language, facial expressions and really build your social intuition through this process)
Personally with identifying Deniers and Justifiers I go straight for sex related topics and see how she responds. This gives a fairly clear indication of which type she is. A good sign of Deniers is when she doesn’t reject you or walk away when you talk about sex, she just ignores it and moves the conversation in another direction but continues talking with you.
With justifiers a good sign is that she stays talking about sex and her general interest levels in you and the conversation increase. General questions and statements about sex that are pacing the conversation between the two of you can be substituted for those two questions above.
I’m giving you this addition information for a few reasons.
To begin with although at the start guys can be looking for a type of magic bullet, a type of “no think” 3 questions to bend reality in their favor, and while this is possible, what is an ideal is to build your understanding and grasp of the concepts behind the 3 Questions and 3 Axis so that you can become a master at it.
Social interactions are a complex combination of many different elements. There are often many levels of communication going on at once, along with my different agendas, intentions, power plays and outside influences. Pandora’s Box for many guys represents a shortcut way to become socially skilled and confident, and in practice I’ve found it very useful to encourage guys to improve at reading situations and all the things not being verbally said.
Realist/Idealist
It’s worth letting you know that we’ve aimed to make these beginner questions as straightforward as possible – you know, really something you can memorize and say – but it’s good to remind you to always keep the situation in mind. This will improve with practice but the more you can start to adapt your questions to the situation at hand the better you will do.
I’ve aimed to make these questions in this beginner section as useful in a vast majority of situations as possible; but common sense is always a good idea. What might light up one conversation might cause another one to end early.
Are you studying or working? What sort of studies/work? You’ll find as a general rule that Realists will value their career, studies and being self-sufficient, and Idealists will be less interested in practical and long-term higher education, more likely to work straight out of school, and more interested in finding a guy to take care of them.
I’ve got a friend that just got married, and she’s 21 and wants to have kids already, what’s your opinion on that? You’ll find that Idealists will like the idea of settling down with a family a lot younger than Realists will. Her opinions and ideas regarding women, marriage, and children will tell you a lot about where she is on the Realist/Idealist Axis. If she is over 25 she is probably likely to tell you this information without you even asking for it.
You don’t want to spend too long in my opinion at the beginner level. It can be a good idea to practice your skills, question asking and female-psychology-reading at events such as speed dating, internet dating or singles events where you can meet a large number of women, conversation is easier than a bar, and you can begin to track your success at using Pandora’s Box.
The goal ultimately is not to become a theoretical expert at Pandora’s Box; it’s to get results, build your confidence and connect with a wide range of women. As you practice the system it can be an excellent idea to keep a journal, notice what works and what doesn’t, and look to always be learning and improving.
In coaching thousands upon thousands of women all around the world over more than 10 years I could easily identify the 3 things that separate those that get the element of their life called “dating” and “women” SORTED, and those that don’t.
These 3 things are – combine these with Pandora’s Box for ILLEGAL RESULTS.
(1) They appreciate their progress – no matter how small. They can see progress and improvement in every interaction, every conversation, each rejection and every day. It’s almost like they have a microscope for seeing what they get better at. Those that never get good have to be convinced overwhelmingly just to notice any progress they make.
(2) They learn – rarely making the same mistake twice. They keep a track of what works, and repeat it, and notice what doesn’t work, and stop doing it. They are willing to change, experiment with new things, and risk failure, and they have a way of tracking their learning, remembering what happened, and have more of a systematic approach to learning.
(3) A longer-term focus. The guy that never gets good wants to master it this week, the successful guy wants to get good this year – or next. The winner is less desperate, more patient with learning, sticks with it longer, has more of a plan to improve, breaks the process down more into individual steps to take over a long period, and sees this process as an investment. The less successful student experiences a type of roller-coaster ride of ups and downs with less consistent improvement.
Make sure to keep those 3 elements in mind while you are beginning to use Pandora’s Box in the real world. It’s my desire for you to become an absolute Master with women.
3 Questions for Medium Level Practitioners – Green Belt Level
At this point you want to well and truly master the Pandora’s Box Pop Quiz. This is a powerful list of questions, mostly to ask yourself, about the her. What these questions do is build incredible awareness to quickly read a situation and her type.
Awareness is pure and simple what separates the masters with women from the Average Joe. The master simply sees, notices and recognizes more from the same women and situation. Constantly asking yourself questions is one of the fastest and more powerful ways to increase your awareness.
At the medium level it is time to get you away from scripts and memorizing.
By this point you will have wanted to get into the habit of constantly going back and forth to your Pandora’s Box materials. If you’ve printed them out, then there will be significant wear and tear on the pages. They’ll probably look like a dog half ate them as you have constantly been referring to them after meeting women.
Now at this level what I need to give you is concepts not exact word-for-word questions. You probably know at this point that flexibility is key – you’ve got to ask the right question at the right time. More than anything you need guidance on what is important.
Tester/Investor
I want to group the insights you will get into certain categories.
Now at Green Belt level the 3 Questions become quite fluid. These might be questions you ask her, questions you ask yourself, things you notice or perceive about her, and/or things she openly says to you.
When I started to learn Pandora’s Box myself initially I found that women were indirectly telling me their type constantly. It was almost as if they knew what Pandora’s Box was and they wanted me to know how to play the situation.
All the information in Pandora’s Box, especially the 3 Axis, is information women generally want you to know – guy’s just tend not to be able to decode it. When you know the system it can feel like women are giving you their type on the table in front of you and there is very little detective work you need to do.
At the beginning I think guys can sometimes feel the opposite – like the information to determine her type is hidden. By now you should be seeing a TON of clues.
Some of the most common ‘problem’ emails we get from guys relate to having difficulty identifying her type and being either frustrated or giving up.
For example a beginner might see a girl, be attracted to her, and have trouble instantly identifying her type out of the 8 and will not try at all. Perhaps he is under the false assumption that you need to know her FULL type before starting a conversation or being able to pick her up. That’s actually incorrect.
The correct mindset is to do the best you can with what you’ve got.
Even if you only have a very small possible insight into her type this is enough to work with. Figure out exactly which of the 8 Types she is later and begin to get more information as the interaction progresses. It might be hours or even days until she fully reveals herself.
Even with an insight into one Axis you have plenty to help you.
The important categories to be highly aware of with the Tester/Investor AXIS:
Relationships:
Her past relationships – e.g. long/short relationships in her past, high or low volume of relationships. Through conversation and connection I’d look to get an insight into what her past relationships were like. Investors will have had a very small number of serious relationships most of the time, and you’ll sometimes get confused trying to figure out who and when a Tester has dated.
Her current relationship and/or dating – e.g. is she completely single or is she never really completely single? Does she seem to be in contact with many guys, even secretly – or is she not like that at all? Does she lead guys on? Aim to get some insight into her dating strategy with guys in general, and what her true current relationship status is like, along with how much she tends to date or hang out with guys.
Her relationships with people, friends and acquaintances – is she flirtatious, or more reserved? Do guys tend to follow her around? What is her general manner with people and how do people deal with her? – Not only with guys but how she manages other relationships and people in her life will give you a clear insight into where she fits in on the AXIS.
Her sisters or family’s relationships, and how she feels about them. Are her 2 sisters in long-term serious relationships and is she quite similar? Do most of her friends have serious boyfriends? For me I tend to learn a lot about people by who they spend time with, and how they talk about those people. She might be a rebel and be the opposite of her sisters, but that’s easy to tell.
Advanced Sections
How she talks about other women that are testers or investors provides major clues. If you can talk about other women you see, she knows and you meet to get an insight into how she feels about other women. This is a very good read to her spot on the AXIS. Women will often be very opinionated about other women.
Her life. No doubt Investors will be more responsible all things being equal than Testers. Look at the state of her life, including her financial and living situation, and how much people help her. Everything to do with her life and her approach to her life gives an indication to her type.
Intuitive Information. I’ve found that Testers are far more likely to be realistic about men, maybe she has cheated before or is now, and she might be very quick to show and lose interest in a guy. Even if she is attempting to appear like an Investor usually holes will appear in the story, and also if you begin the connection with no judgement and true honesty she might reveal information that gives it away. With Investors they’ll often want to make a real effort to demonstrate she is an Investor. Her dating strategy will be far more serious. You’ll find your own hidden clues with practice.
Keep in kind that the best way to learn about Pandora’s Box is to experiment with it. If you think she is a certain type then back yourself and attempt the recommended strategy. If it fails then this is a fantastic learning opportunity. I don’t believe in failure when it comes to meeting women; everything is a learning opportunity.
Important Areas to Focus on to Determine Deny/Justify Axis:
Sex. Her attitudes, opinions, preferences and comments about sex give you a really powerful insight into the Deny/Justify Axis. How she talks about other women that are into sex, her own sexual experiences, and just her general reaction in her energy when sex is brought up tells you where she is on the Axis. This is even more true when it comes to any trauma related to sex or bad experiences.
When something goes wrong, how does she talk about it? Deniers will respond to negativity and mistakes every differently than Justifiers. Say she got a speeding ticket, a Denier will crumple it up and throw it under the seat of her car, a Justifier will tell you about but she’s blame someone or something else.
Is she a risk taker? Justifiers will tend to take more risks than Deniers. You know if she works as a stripper, goes out all weekend and hangs out with people she doesn’t know and likes the unknown – she is far more likely to be a Justifier. With Deniers they’ll tend to be less openly wild and taking risks.
Realist/Idealist
Some key areas to pay attention to in determining this Axis:
Work and Study. Her career or lack thereof is a massive indicator. It is very clear if she finished school and got a low paying job or chose to become a Doctor where she lies on the scale. This is a fairly normal part of conversation which is what makes this an easy Axis.
Her attitudes toward male and female roles. It’s a risky topic but there is a big difference between how Realists and Idealists see the world from a gender perspective. Realists probably had a job as a teenager and had to look after themselves, and Idealists often had a mother that wasn’t career driven and was taken care of financially.
Opinions about settling down and marriage. This is important because it can majorly affect your relationship plans. Marriage will be far more important to an Idealist than a Realist. They’ll tend to be far more interested in settling down and maybe even having a family. A Realist will tend to be more independent and not searching for it in the same way.
So as you’ve found when you move from the beginner level to medium level you go from 3 Questions to 3 Concepts.
Beginner / White Belt Level – 3 Questions
Medium / Green Belt Level – 3 Concepts
Advanced / Black Belt Level – 3 Principles
Now for the Advanced Black Belt Level.
3 Questions for Advanced Practitioners – Black Belt Level
This is where things really become interesting.
This is an indication of where you are probably at right now?
By now you should be able to determine a woman’s type almost by looking at her. Or within a few minutes or by noticing “stuff” around her. It will almost seem like women are openly telling you their type without you even needing to do anything at all.
You’ve set a goal to meet women of each type to become more confident with women and to strengthen your ability to create a genuine connection. You’ve started to meet women in different ways and in doing so have experienced many examples of the 8 Types.
At this point you’ve evolved from being stuck on the particular types or Axis in an analytical sense and have that very strong intuitive sense of what to do. It’s very clear exactly what to do with each type and you do the correct thing without needing to think about it at all.
You are starting to appreciate subtleties between women of the same type and you are really developing that sense of laser-like focus and ability to predict the future. Things always seem predictable, common-sense and obvious to you; there are no more dating surprises.
You don’t think any particular is good or bad, or any women better or worse than each other; you have a really appreciative focus. You see everything having positives and negatives and are extremely well grounded and balanced.
It’s unusual for you to get rejected outright, women feel like they’ve known for you for a long-term while you first meet them and you always seem to know what to say.
You are able to talk about other women with women with amazing clarity. You appear to women to be some sort of freak of nature in understanding them. You can cold-read women’s friends with incredible accuracy and are able to explain thing they themselves don’t understand.
It goes without saying that you either have an abundance of women or are in a fantastic relationship. You’ve got the aspect of “women” sorted in your life however you are passionate about constantly learning more and improving.
How do you become a black-belt practitioner?
This where cold-reading based on her type is used. Here are 3 examples of cold reads for each type.
Cold reading is when you are able to tell who she is really well.
Let’s say for example you do martial arts. It’s not obvious to 99% of people out there because you look normal but someone that extremely experienced can tell you are a martial artist simply by the way you walk and hold yourself.
Now that person says to you “I can tell you do martial arts by your body language. What style do you do?”
That is a cold read. The ‘read’ part is telling you who you are – like the famous saying ‘I read you like a book’ – and the ‘cold’ part is because you didn’t tell that person anything about martial arts, they just guessed it. You could call it an educated guess of sorts.
It’s a bit of a risk in a way – if it comes off attraction will be instantly boosted – don’t we all like someone that understands us? But if we get it wrong it can backfire – like a gun with a blocked barrel.
But cold reads because of their power are a lethal way of communicating with women. You want to do cold reads in every conversation. The real power in Pandora’s Box is the Millionaire Fortune Teller cold reading ability you can develop.
These are just some suggestions, and I recommend that you develop your own.
The Playette (TDI)
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I bet you like to people watch. I think this is where you have developed your sense of advanced social intuition. You might seem quite to some people but really you are the most switched on in the bunch.
2. You seem like a woman that really likes a challenge. I don’t think it’s easy for most guys to break through your protective layers, and most guys you lose interest in quickly I’d say because they are not up to the challenge. Because you are socially intelligent most guys simply don’t get it or don’t cut it.
3. You seem like someone to whom freedom and fun is really important. I think serious dates with flowers and expensive dinners would be a big turnoff for you! I’d say that keeping it casual and relaxed would be important to you.
The Social Butterfly (TJI)
1. Wow, I bet that you like to do the chasing a bit when it comes to guys. Unattainable guys are probably a bit of a weakness for you.
2. You are a really socially confident person! I bet that pressure and neediness are massive turnoffs for you. I’m sure you enjoy a challenge… and most guys are probably not that for you.
3. I bet you have 1 or 2 really passionate interests that you don’t tell everyone about. Maybe they are a bit of a secret….
The Hopeful Romantic (NDI)
1. You seem to someone that appreciates a guy with emotional strength. Someone that is like a rock on the inside and is really secure in himself. That seems really important to you.
2. I really like being romantic! However the last girl I opened up with didn’t really appreciate it. You seem like someone that likes the idea of a perfect guy sweeping you off your feet…
3. Just talking to you I can tell that connection and authenticity is very important to you.
The Cinderella (NJI)
1. I bet you get turned on by a man that can match your passion – but this is very rare for you to find.
2. You seem to really wear your heart on your sleeve – this may have led you to getting you heart broken once or twice, but it also means that you live life to the absolute full.
3. I think a man with a combination of strength and sensitivity is what attracts you…
The Private Dancer (TDR)
1. I can tell that you have a really sensitive and passionate side inside – but I bet not many guys have got to see it.
2. You seem like a really giving person. You like to help and contribute. I’m like that too. I bet you are a great friend.
3. I’m guessing that although you are an independent and career-driven person you are a great cook. What are your favorite things to cook?
The Seductress (TJR)
1. I bet you think traditional dating is silly…
2. A guy that is a challenge is the ultimate for you; I can tell. As soon as guy starts acitng like a puppy dog I bet you are out of there!
3. Men might not realize it, but you are really comfortable talking about sex. It’s not a big deal to you.
The Connoisseur (NDR)
1. I bet you are a real giver. When you invest time and energy into a guy, I’m sure it is a real GIFT and he’d better deserve it.
2. You would make such an amazing girlfriend. I’m sure that it’s really important for you to feel appreciated.
3. You are a woman to whom eye contact is really important. Strong, confident and connected eye contact.
The Modern Woman (NJR)
1. I’d bet that the 3 biggest turnoffs for you in men are selfishness, lack of direction in their life and neediness. You hate those things…
2. Honesty is really important to you, I can tell. In fact the moment a guy is dishonest he is GONE.
3. I’m guessing you are someone that likes to do activities. You’ve probably got at least a couple of hobbies right?
These are very basic examples of cold reading for each type. You can expand these and develop them along with your experiences.
Cold reading when done correctly though is lethal.
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